I Love Him, but Sometimes I Want to Hit Him over the Head with a Frying Pan

Love, men, sheesh! He’s great most of the time, you love him more than life itself, but once in a while…it would feel nice to whack him! Why does he take his moodiness out on you? Are you guilty of doing the same thing sometimes?

Sure, we all get persnickety when we live with someone or spend a lot of time with him. But he’s so…so…so…uhg! He won’t tell you what’s wrong, he just takes it out on you through snippy remarks, lack of affection, or just shuts down altogether.

Is this a bad thing? Could be, but if it doesn’t happen a lot, it’s actually flattering if you think about it.

He feels comfortable enough with you to let his freak flag fly. He’s grumpy one minute, then when he answers the phone to talk to a friend, he’s all nice and laughing. Why isn’t he doing that with you at that moment?

He knows you love him and will take his damage. You always have, he hopes you always will. And we’ve dished out some crazy for him to handle, too! But it’s all in love.

Try to get him to tell you what’s bothering him after he calms down or comes out of his shell. Many men haven’t been taught they can be open and vulnerable, and when they feel vulnerable, they want to hide it or take it out on…the people they love the most. That’s you.

Once you can get him talking, and it may take time and a lot of patience and effort, he’ll realize that’s the solution rather than a fight or a stagnant environment. A good way to get him to open up is for you to open up first about something bothering you, but don’t let him know if it’s him who is bothering you. Tell him about things in your life you are upset about, such as work situations, difficulty with children or family, ask him what you should and could do. Seek his advice and ask if he ever feels the way you do.

With time and repetition, he’ll feel safe to open up to you and realize you’re the “good one.” You’re only looking out for his best interests and letting him know he can vent to you about things outside your relationship will possibly encourage him to do that instead of the other ways he lets out his frustrations.